Courtship or Dating?

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On Wednesday Night, August 29th, we will discuss “Courtship and Dating.”  Twenty-One years ago, a book by Joshua Harris called “I Kissed Dating Goodbye” went on sale and sold over a million copies. Two decades later, the idea of “Biblical Courtship” instead of “Dating” is receiving mixed reviews. Some say the ideas in the book were very successful – including the author who is happily married. Others claim that the book ruined their life.

This book has led to some very strong opinions in the Christian community about which form of Marriage preparation is the most Biblical, proper, and practical for making successful marriages.

Dating is the idea of couples selecting for themselves who they believe will be an ideal marriage partner. They make “dates” or appointments to go places and do things together so they can meet, talk, and get to know whether they are compatible or not. Sometimes these “dates” occur in groups – but often the couple spends a lot of time alone.

Courtship is basically “supervised” dating. Couples receive advice from parents about who they think would make a good marriage partner. They also get together to talk and get to know each other – but they are usually chaperoned or supervised by parents or other responsible adults. In courtship, there is very little time spent alone until they are married.

Which is the most Biblical way for a couple to prepare for marriage?

  • Either (33%, 6 Votes)
  • Courtship (28%, 5 Votes)
  • Neither (22%, 4 Votes)
  • Dating (11%, 2 Votes)
  • Other (Please Comment) (6%, 1 Votes)

Total Voters: 18

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